Things to remember while setting your goals

Like many of the best things in life, your weight loss techniques need to be translated into lifestyle changes so that they become something you can live out on a day-to-day basis. Your thoughts will determine how you feel about yourself, which in turn affects your mood, your interactions with others, and your interpretation of your progress. This is why setting goals is an important aspect of weight loss.

3 common problems people setting goals may face:
– Expecting too much
– Being upset with anything less than perfection
– Letting small mistakes build into a catastrophe.

Such thoughts get in the way of achieving your goal and can sour your outlook. This section will help you root out such thoughts and build more constructive thoughts in their place.

Ban the perfectionist attitude

Whether we realize it or not, most of us set goals for everything we do. We may not actually put these goals into words, but we have a certain expectation of how well we should be performing. This expectation is hidden even in the simplest of tasks – cooking a dish of your choice, or even in talking o a friend. You are always expecting a certain level of performance. If you put too much salt in the food, or said an insensitive thing to your friends, you would be upset because you expected more – you did not satisfy your internal standard.

It is very important to know how difficult life will become if your goals are unreasonably out of reach. If you expected your dish of choice to make it to Top Chef or for your friend to immortalize your phone conversation in the next bestseller Tuesdays with Morrie, you would feel crushed if the dish came out good but not excellent, or if the bestseller did not happen!

Unfortunately, when it comes to weight loss, many people regularly set goals about eating, exercise and weight loss that are completely unrealistic. When these goals are not met, the negative emotional response can send your entire weight loss plan into a tailspin.

This is how you measure up to your goals:
Step 1 is where you set your goals;
Step 2 is where you compare your performance to your goal; and
Step 3 is your emotional response, which can be positive if the goal is reached and negative if the goal is not reached.

The emotional response is what you have to watch out for. Many people have enough problems adjusting to new health and eating goals and don’t need the extra burden of negative feelings and thoughts. You can change the emotional response by altering Steps 1 and 2 – goal setting and comparisons you make to the goal.

When faced with a negative feeling, compare them to the goal you have set. As an example, check out this step-wise division of what 3 Slim.in users went through.

Setting goal Comparing performance Emotional response
“I will always stay within my slims allowance “I cheated on Diwali, on my birthday and in three office parties.” “I am feeling so guilty. Maybe I should give up because I can’t do this anyway.”
“I will learn one sport and practice it atleast 3 times a week.” “I have just started. I can see people who are playing since their youth and they look and play so much better.” “I am embarrassed to be seen playing with them.”
“I will lose 1 kilos every single week.” “This week I only lost half a kilo.”

And now check out how they reset their goals and comparisons of their performances to successfully go on with Slim.in.

Setting goal Comparing performance Emotional response
“I will keep within the Slims allowance as much as possible.” “I ate more than I was allowed on Diwali, on my birthday and in three office parties. But most importantly, I followed the program for the rest of the last 3 months” “I am feeling satisfied with what I am doing and will continue.”
“I will increase my level of exercise.” “I have been exercising regularly.” “I have successfully started exercising and am continuing with this new habit.”
“I will target losing 1 kilo for most weeks” “I lost 3 kilos in the last month” “I have worked hard and am showing progress”

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